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When you’re self aware, you realize when you’re in a bad habit mode.
I want you to look at your life right now, because this is about you, not about me.
Do I have some bad habits? Absolutely.
And when I catch myself in a bad habit cycle, I really have a cold dose of reality.
You see, every morning when we wake up, we try to eliminate our bad habits. A lot of us wake up always refreshed and feeling positive. Feeling like today is going to be the day we are going to finally eliminate the bad habits.
We get excited.
And what happens? Well, bad habits are hard to break.
For those of you who are overweight, you know how soothing those carbs and sugars can be for you.
For those of you who are frustrated the way your body looks, you know how easy it is to avoid going to the gym.
For a lot of you, you can’t seem to connect with the opposite sex on a deeper level.
And you know the bad habits are holding you back.
Bad habits are really challenging.
They’re really difficult.
Especially when those habits become ingrained deeper and even deeper.
The more you do the bad habits, the most you’re cognizant of that habit, the more you are constantly living the bad habit.
And that’s where the real challenge starts to come.
So how do we get rid of these bad habits?
- The first thing is recognition.
You want to recognize the bad habits. You want to look at that bad habit, and you want to ask yourself: how long have I been doing this bad habit for?
You need a little bit of reality.
You really need to understand how deeply ingrained this bad habit has …
Do you ever run in and see somebody that you know you know?
You instantly feel something for them, a sense of attraction or sense of familiarity, but you just can’t place it. You think, well maybe that’s just somebody I want to know.
Then all of a sudden, you start talking to them and you realize you do know them. They look at you, they smile because they know you. But, you don’t remember where you know them from. But you know they’re a good person. You know that you’ve shared some type of moment with them.
But, you don’t remember where or when.
I have met so many people in my life that occasionally I’ll run into somebody and I don’t remember where I know them from. I could’ve gone out on a date with them years back.
It could’ve been somebody who was in one of my bigger seminars.
I like to talk to them and have a wonderful connection with them because I have met so many people in my life, but I don’t remember everybody or even how I first met them.
But, here is something that I do know.
It’s a feeling that I have.
If I run into somebody that I don’t remember exactly where I shared a moment with them or how I know them, I have a feeling. That feeling connects me to them. I know they’re a good person.
I know that I’ve had a moment with them in the past.
I have a gentle, warm feeling all over even if I can’t remember exactly where and when we had our moment.
But, it’s interesting. People will leave me with an everlasting feeling. That’s really what matters. It’s not the details that matter, but it’s the energy that you have …
How do you feel when I say that word, struggle?
It’s a very uncomfortable feeling.
But really, struggling just means that you’re not accomplishing what you want to accomplish.
Whatever task you have at that present moment feels like a mountain that you need to climb.
Lately, I’ve been learning the stock market.
In the beginning I was doing well, but then I hit a pitfall. I had one bad day.
Ever since then, what was once fun has been a complete struggle.
And yet, I continue to study. I continue to read, watch videos, take courses.
But still I continue to have a daily struggle.
I’ve probably spent about 4 hours a day trading the market. Most of the time I break even.
It’s a struggle.
It’s a struggle to overcome my fears.
I have fear when I’m in there.
Am I going to lose? Am I going to lose money? Let me get out, fast, I don’t want to lose.
I’ve got that whole have-to-win mentality, when in reality, losing is all part of the game, and it’s all part of life.
Nobody can win all the time.
Nobody, not even Bill Belichick.
Not even Tom Brady.
Nobody wins all the time.
There are losses in life.
And through the losses, you actually learn some of the most valuable lessons that you ever can have.
To get over the hump.
To get to the next level of you, it’s going to be a struggle.
There’s no way around it.
Because if there was a way around it, we’d all figure it out and we’d all buy a program, a drug, whatever it might be to get around the struggle.
I sit in my struggles four hours a day. It’s not fun.
It’s not fun to …
There are two things that I truly believe in life:
- To remain consistent, and
- To truly live an authentic life.
You must be truthful about who you are.
I know we live in a society now where we can be a super hero versions of ourselves and post ridiculous comments on Facebook and other places to make us larger than life, better than we are.
I know online dating. Most people lie, post pictures of themselves that are younger, skinnier, whatever it might be.
But, the only way you will ever grow is if you’re truthful about yourself.
All the time, you meet somebody and tell them you used to be something.
I used to be successful.
I used to be really thin.
I used to be happier.
I used to take care of myself and eat healthy.
But yet, the person you are right now is none of the above.
The other person believes you. But, the question is: are you really being truthful about what you used to be?
We have this ridiculous habit as human beings to manufacture the past.
We like to change the past in a lot of different ways.
We like to change up the past in relationships. Sometimes we romanticize the past. We think we should be with somebody that we used to be with. We remember only the good, but not the bad. Not the truth.
And, we do the same thing with ourselves.
For instance, you may have never been in great shape your entire life, and yet, compared to how you are now, you used to be in great shape. You understand where the dysfunction works in this manner.
Taking this as an example, maybe you’re not in good physical condition. Maybe you’re overweight, maybe you’re muscles are not toned. …
I want to explain fear to you.
Fear is the overwhelming emotion that conquers you when you’re trying to get past something.
We have “here-we-go-again” syndrome that comes in with fear, and it’s really powerful.
Here we go again.
I can’t believe this happened to me again.
Then the emotions come out.
We get all tight inside.
We have the feeling of impeding doom.
No matter how hard we’ve studied something, no matter how hard we prep, there’s always going to be something that triggers fear within us.
It’s a really big challenge, and it’s probably one of the biggest challenges that we will have as human beings.
I’ve been coaching you guys for 20 years, and you always say, “Well David, it’s so easy for you.”
It is. I can go talk to any girl, any place, any time.
It’s a piece of cake. I don’t even think about it.
There’s no anxiety.
If I want to talk to somebody, I talk to them.
It’s just another human being.
We’re just going to have an interaction and see what happens from there.
I have a lot of empathy and compassion. That’s why, for all these years, I’ve been a great coach for you guys who are struggling with trying to make a move on the opposite sex.
Now, trading is my venture. My new challenge. I enjoy this challenge. It’s great. But it’s frustrating as hell.
I pretty much break even every week. Now, you think, “Oh wow, that sucks. You put all this time in and you’re just breaking even?”
But in reality, that’s a win. It’s a huge, huge, huge win.
I mean, I haven’t been live trading for a year yet. I started in July of 2018.
Since Thanksgiving, I’m down a whole $650. That’s it. …
I decided to have a quest for 2019.
Glad you asked.
I want to masculate the feminized man.
I’m tired of the MeToo movements, I’m tired of the masculine woman.
Now, don’t get what I say wrong.
If a woman isn’t physically abused, emotionally abused, mentally abused, or any abuse from a man, Bill Cosby, or a Matt Lauer, or any of that stuff, I am strongly on the side of the woman, and I think a man who does that needs to be brought to justice.
But a woman doesn’t always need to air her shit in public and talk about it. To me, that’s a very private thing, a private thing that deserves one-on-one attention, one-on-one help to heal.
You’re not going to heal by pounding MeToo on social media. Not going to happen at all.
And what happens, is you give these feminine men another reason not to be masculine.
You wouldn’t believe the amount of time that I have e-mails from men, literally saying:
You know, I don’t know how to approach women anymore, because if I do approach a woman, it’s going to be a MeToo event.
And I’m going to get in trouble, and I’m going to lose my job, and I’m going to do this.
No, it’s just another excuse that men have come up with to be emasculated, because most women crave and desire a real man to walk over there and talk to them, instead of being approached on an Internet dating site or a dating app.
They’re not going to sit there and put a MeToo all over you, but the fact is these men have become so emasculated and so weak that they use this as another excuse not to be a man.
As I said, the …